LastResort & Jabez, both of you sound like you're doing great!
Jabez, I'd still warn against finding out anything about the OP, it can sting, and ultimately, doesn't mean squat. So it's needless pain.
Way cool about all the stuff you're getting into!
I just dashed off a reply to my WAW's email of last night wherein she inquired about making a lunch date for next week. I took a bold step. Mind you, she's 130 miles and I don't see her often, so every contact is critical, but basically I neither said yes or no and just almost like blew her off telling her that next week is hectic with "Possible rehearsal... Reading for a Director... some personal stuff... a photo shoot... meeting up with friends... appointment with a prospective bridal couple... There are some days/nights I'll be in the city and have things to do, but a few things are up in the air still." Just to send her a message that she's not all that important to me.
We'll see what she does in turn. Sometimes I wish we could take bets on what the WASs will do next, that way we could make some money on this to compensate for the pain lol!!!!
I don't have any expectations of what she'll do next, this way if something adverse happens I can roll with it better. I have a hunch she'll get back to me rather quickly and try to figure out a date with me, but then again, that's just a hunch. A hopeful hunch. She might just as well write back and say, "Wow, you sound really busy. Maybe some day in April would be better?" That's why I say no expectations and deal with the actual outcomes instead of speculating. Just like I dealt with her actual email.
Last, that's very interesting about that "dance" H does with you, returning like for like. If he's pouty when you end a call, that's his problem, but I think you know that. Is he doing anything like distancer/pursuer movements? When you back off, he draws close, when you draw close, he backs off?
