Quote: Dynamics such as whether your WAS is more or less communicative than mine has to do mostly with their desire to communicate with you. That ebbs and flows depending on several things, not the least of which is how the LBS interacts with the WAS. Being a dynamic, that can change as a result. Is your WAS truly indifferent to you? No reactions whatsoever, either angry or not? Is it as if they fell off the face of the earth?
The first four months after the bomb when I was sad/angry at H, he showed some "caring", probably due to guilt. When I started being "O.K." (since DBing, end of Aug) he will take his cues from me. If I am cordial and friendly, we will be in return, but never steps over that line that shows me any hope. The only things that "disturb" him are me being extremely happy or getting off the phone first, to which he reacts taken aback or pouty.
I don't know...all I know is that H has a long way to go. As someone else mentioned, he keeps extremely busy, I think in an effort to avoid looking at himself. Sigh...
