Do I want to know?

[NYsurvivor]

Thanks for your "model" story of DBing done right.

Am I doing it correctly? Hope so. Think so. I didn't deem it to be a model story, though. It's just my story, and since you're also dealing with an infrequent contact basis, I thought my story would be helpful.

Dynamics such as whether your WAS is more or less communicative than mine has to do mostly with their desire to communicate with you. That ebbs and flows depending on several things, not the least of which is how the LBS interacts with the WAS. Being a dynamic, that can change as a result. Is your WAS truly indifferent to you? No reactions whatsoever, either angry or not? Is it as if they fell off the face of the earth?

More than anything, I feel sorry for H.

Sure. Their sitch doesn't get any much better. Odds are it's downhill for them from this point.