Wow, what a great discussion. Jabez you're getting some great insights here from NYS especially & the others. You've all helped inspire me to make it though another day. Catch up with me at: Bill's sitch One thing about snooping/spying. I too struggle mightily with this as I believe that the truth must be known to make correct decisions. However, be prepared, because the truth often hurts (much more than you think). Caution yourself not to react until you've had time to simmer down a little after you find out things you really didn't want to know. And after you get your nose rubbed in it enough you might get to NYS's perspective and stop trying to find out everything and accept, detach & whatever. Some days I think I'm there... other days I know I'm not. Let's keep working on ourselves and hopefully we'll all attract the one's we love back into our lives. Bill
