Hi NYsurvivor,

Thanks for your "model" story of DBing done right. I'm really not angry and mean spirited toward (now) H but I was in a mood last night. It shows, eh? More than anything, I feel sorry for H. I guess that makes me co-dependent or a big sucker!

Our stories are similar but H is less communicative and more indifferent than your W. He is also not living with OW yet. I have been plugging away and doing all the things you are doing but have less opportunity. The LL/need I'm least able to meet now is a biggie. PT. H's other main LL is WOA, which I try to do at every opportunity. I'll keep on keepin' on. Thanks for the book recommendation. That's one that I haven't read yet.

Thanks for taking the time to write all that out and share your story.

LR