Jabez4910 wrote -------- She told me that she could never trust me again. ---------- That is almost like W blaming you for the affair.
Keep snooping. Truth is the truth, you need to know it. You can't work in a fantisy world and make good choices. By knowing the truth, and I do not call it snooping, you might even find out what you need to do so the relationship will change faster. The term snooping conveys some guilt with it. Knowing the truth is a more honest term. Just modify your reaction to her. You can say a little bird told me instead of confronting her and keep her guessing about your sources.
