M problems take a long time to build up, Tag, so it takes a long time to fix them.
I am divorced from my H and it took a D to make him come round, he even said 'happy anniversary' to me just before the D came through.
It sometimes takes a D to make them realise what they're losing. I have a good R with my H now and we are slowly working on developing it. It's much better than it ever was in the M.
Even if she pushes it to a D, it doesn't necessarily mean the end of your R. Me and H talk to each other all the time now, we are open, we are honest and the sex is amazing.
(No one ever tells you, divorced sex is HOT - if you do get a D, you have that to look forward to).
We've been talking about getting a house together in the future and a commitment ceremony.
My friend Martha just re-married her ex-husband a few months ago. Even Richard and Judy (UK chat show presenters) got re-married to each other after a D. It happens all the time, so don't lose heart. When I think of all the hurtful things my H said to me, I think sometimes it is divine intervention that got me here.
You are NOT a failure, don't ever think that. Tell yourself you love yourself and say it everyday - like attracts like. Your W is more likely to love you as well if you exude this.
