I put up a post in the newcommers forum today, but I think that it should probably be on this forum. I don't know how to move it, but if you guys could please read it and give any advice it would be great. The subject in the newcommers forum is also "Now What???" Thanks
Just do what you are doing. Seems like you have your emotions in check. The word from the friend is huge. Obviously she has to figure out what she wants since she has a BF. If something changes, then change. She is obviously thinking.
Your story was so great to read! Thanks for that. It sounds like you are doing what you need to be doing. Keep things slow and give her plenty of space. Keep us updated!
One quick and easy way to move your post is to go to your other post, highlight the text of your other post, right click with your mouse, select copy, come to this board, choose to make a post and then right click again and paste it into the box where you usually type your message. Everyone here would love to read it.
Well, it's been about eight months since the divorce has been final. I haven't posted here or even read here because I figured that it was over. I decided that the best thing to do would be to move on. So thats what I did. Or did I. There is absolutely no doubt in my mind that I am still head over heals in love with her. Well, there has been very little contact since July. Actually none until november. My daughter (from previous marraige) turned 9 in November. So my ex sent her a b-day card. In the card was a short note to me asking if she could see the kids some time. I thought no way. Then with winter comming, she called a friend of mine who she works for in the winter to see if she had a job or not. I guess they talked about some things and what not. So he calls me and lets me know that if I ever want things to work out with her, I should let her se the kids. So I agree to allow it. So she has been seing them on a pretty regular basis since the end of November. We have talked a little bit about this and about that. You know, just "happy talk". Well, I have been trying to get on with my life, but I'm not having much luck. I haven't dated much at all. So I finally meet some one last week. I make plans to go out with her and all looks good. The day we were supposed to go out, it just didn't feel right. Well, the night before I had spent quite abit of time talking to God and I asked him to please give me some direction. So I assumed that this feeling was part of that direction. I think that he was telling me not to go out. So I called her (my date) and canceled. About an hour later, I have an extreamily strong urge to call Jenni (my ex). So I did. I invited her out for a few drinks. She said that she thought she had already made plans, but maybe she would show. I assumed that she had blown me off, and I had no hard feelings about it. To my surprise, she did infact show up. We had a real blast, just like old times again. There were several times that night that she tried to move in for a kiss, but I always turned away. Well, the night ended and I walked her ut to her car. We talked for a few more minutes and I gave her a hug good bye. She again move in for a kiss and this time i went with it. It was a very pasionate kiss. It felt so good to hold her in my arms again. Well, the night ended and we went our seperate ways. Now, the next night, I was out with some friends, and she called me to let me know she was going back to the same place as the night before if I wanted to join her. Well, I was already there, so I did. She showed up with a friend this time. I had already had more than a few drinks in me when they showed up. So I was having a good time and my emotions were flying. I danced with her and we held each other very close. I told her that I missed her dearly. She said the she also missed me. Then I told her that I was still very much in love with her and she told me the same. We exchanged seceral kisses that night. I talked a bit with her friend who confirmed that she still had feelings for me. The friend also thought that things might work out between us. Well i figured that I would give her some space, so I didn't call her at all the next day. Then she called me yesterday (monday) to make arangements to pick up the kids this week. She then proceded to tell me about the movie that her and her boyfriend had seen the day before. I told her that I had lost her once and that I was going to wait for her this time. My question. Now what do I do? I hope that you have some advice for me. if not, I hope that you have enjoyed my story. Back at it again, Enginecono5
Yours is a great sitch with an awesome possibility. I'm facing a likely D in the next 1-2 mo, as W has her mind set on this as her solution. Hey, I spent 6 yrs in Milwaukee - met W there.
Great move to pray and listen/wait for God's direction before a big decision. I'm finally learning that lesson. You've done a nice job of sparking the intrigue in XW again. Kids are a great link b/t the two of you. You have a wise friend there.
Think about ways to DB effectively, setting up some shortterm goals - some for the R/her and some about just you. How might things be changed for the better in your R w/ XW? And what improvements in you can you start up beginning tomorrow that will help move her from intrigue to sheer attraction, pulling her to you (thus ridding you of any need to chase)?
Sorry you're here but nice to meet you. Thanks for posting your sitch.
I don't think you should have stopped her seeing the kids. As someone who went through 2 years of custody battle, I find that bad, but it's good you've corrected that, after all, it's not the kids fault, is it?
Keep up the DB'ing and let her contact with them continue even if your M doesn't work.
Saw xw this morning. Did some work at her house for her. Had a good time and conversation with her. Told her exactly how I felt about her and how if I could still be this in love with her after the last year, then nothing could ever stop my love for her. We cryed together and held each other for a few minutes. Then I said good bye. I think that I might go dark for a while and wait for her to call me. What do you guys think? Thanks for reading,
