Saw H and dd1 today. Don't know how it went so posting here for opinions. He and dd1 turned up 1 hour EARLY while I was vaccuming carpets. The house was spotless, lol. Said hello to dd1 and H said hello to me. Gave dd1 some books (which were meant for dd2 but she wasn't there), so she read them to Alicia, my 2 year old. That was really sweet. H asked if I'd changed the living room around. I said no. He said it looked different. He told me he was taking the girls to a museum because it was 'Roman Day' there. I said 'That's nice' but was a tad jealous as he didn't invite me too. This is still an improvement on a few months ago when he wouldn't have told me anything about his or their lives. Sometimes though, it is really hard knowing and not being able to join in. He noticed that I wasn't comfortable with it despite me trying to hide it, and said 'What?' I told him I was just contemplating something and asked him if I could watch dd3 do ballet next time they have a parents day. He said yes, so that made me feel slightly better. The text about the 'secret' dating wasn't mentioned, but he seemed a bit more tense than usual and didn't sit next to me like he normally does but that could have been because dd1 was there. I asked him if he was okay. He said yes. He asked me what I'd been upto, I told him I'm going for osteopathic treatment. Then came the tricky bit. We ran a joint business which was started by me and he helped me with it. I was the business woman, he is useless with money etc and he's more into kids and stuff so when he left he took the kids (apart from Alicia), I took the business. Now, today he asked me to EMPLOY him. (Help!!!).
He wants to do web design/dtp etc for my business and have me pay him to do so. Now I've got the money, the money isn't a problem. It's just that after the D and custody battle and everything that happened, and he did some really stupid things with money, I nearly had to close down.
I've still got an outstanding legal matter to clear up which he caused so I just wanted to ask him to shut down the existing website and let me figure out how to do another one.
My feeling is that while I don't know how this R is going to go, I'd rather not involve him in the business, yet the website is registered to him so only he can shut it down. He says he wouldn't do anything stupid and if he is paid, of course he would carry on doing the job even if we split up, but it seems a bit risky to me.
I have been running it independently of him for months and although I am lacking in certain skills at least I am doing it. It is just this site which is the sticking point.
Should I employ him or not? Talk about grey area. He doesn't half present me with some challenges sometimes.
We didn't argue and everything was pleasent and nice and he told me to forward some work to him so he can start on it, but I'm not sure what to do.
I made coffees, he drank his. I said goodbye to the kids (he was taking Alicia for his contact) and he said 'See you Monday'.
