Sorry it's taken me so long to respond to this....
Quote: It she said that she was mad at herself for not being more proactive about our SL, and isn’t sure why she doesn’t work on it more.
Well, what about starting with a game plan...together. What I had to do with my H, once he realized we really did have a problem and I was serious about it...was set out a strategy of sorts. Things to rule out & cross off the list as possible problems. That at least got the ball rolling towards productive discussions.
She's already agreed to see a Dr., that's great! Let her know you appreciate that, as I've said...but you can always ask her things like. Does she find herself really preoccupied at the end of the day...you know thinking about everything she hasn't finished, or stuff for the following day? If so, it might help if you two had some time to discuss these things...before bed, it might help get those issues off her mind for her to relax.
Something else is...you might ask her if she finds she's just really tired at the end of the day. If so, is there anything you can help with to help her with that....or maybe even does she feel more up for sex in the morning.
I wouldn't suggest asking all of these at once...but maybe as off the cuff kind of "I'm curious" questions. This works for me anyway
