I gave her the letter, I did make a few changes based on the group input, thanks all! Plus there were a few personal touches that I didn’t want to share with the BB, don’t worry positive things. She read it, while a sat next to her, she was a bit ‘mater of fact’ about what I had said. To be honest I was expecting a bit more of a reaction, I’m not sure if her getting angry or loving would have made a difference. After reading It she said that she was mad at herself for not being more proactive about our SL, and isn’t sure why she doesn’t work on it more. I did tell her that this is our problem but until she tries to help figure it out (and let me help) it is her issue. I know I shouldn’t place blame but she needed to know that a great degree of my frustration is in her respose to the problem not just the problem.
She did agree to go to the doctor, I told her that if the doctor says that hypothyroidism isn’t the problem, then we should continue to try to solve the problem, if it isn’t physical that we can go to a MC or whatever it takes. She made an appointment for a week from now with the GP for a physical. I hope she specifically tells the doctor why she is there, and doesn’t just go for a general physical to ‘make me happy’.
Ok, so now what, do I keep pushing for more or just let things go until after she sees the doctor? I want to encourage without letting her off the hook too easy. Suggestions? Time for accolades and romantic actions or wait to see if she follows up...
