I don't know what I do or don't that bothers her. I want to make myself and our R better, but without input from her, I'm shooting in the dark and hoping to hit something. I found I had to rely a lot on body language, eye rolling, sighs, gestures, that sort of thing. It isn't easy, mistaken impressions happen, but you can actually get quite good at it. I discovered once from a sigh that I had spattered water drops on the bathroom mirror shortly after she had cleaned it. I cleaned the mirror (right then) and am became more careful about that. At first, it was a long list of trivial things, it seemed hard to navigate the mine field, and I resented the long list of seemingly petty things. But eventually it came down to paying attention to what was important to her and being considerate.
Now, she still became a WAW. Your mileage may vary.
