Intimacy is a nebulous thing. I agree that it involves being open with each other, but it doesn’t have to involve endless conversation. For some couples, it probably involves less conversation. I am a chatterbox and a busy bee by nature, and I know my H appreciates ‘comfortable silence.’
I read some of your old posts and your wife seems to hide behind a big wall. This is hard. While my H hates talking, there are some times when he is more open to it. We have had some tough conversations, and as the need arises, we continue to have them. Maybe the trick for people like you and me is to figure out what things need addressing/questioning and what things don’t.
Still, the fact remains that you feel closer to her today than you did a year ago. The wall is coming down. I don’t have any advice right now, but I hope that wall keeps coming down for you.
