It's not just a girl thing. My H once said to me "I've made all my major life decisions by default.". With him it's more of a lack of confidence or self-esteem or patience that makes him feel like he's unable to gather information or gain skills that would help him make decisions. For instance, he has told me that he feels like I have an unfair advantage in our "fight" over the sex issue because I have the support of this BB and I've read several books on the subject, yet he will not read the books or join the BB himself.
So maybe your W feels like she is protecting her self-esteem along the lines of "If I only try a little then I can only fail a little".
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
