Quote: # fear of making decisions, and # fear of intimacy.
And fear of conflict. How was it handled in her family of origin?
Many women say that they don't even know their own opinions and desires, especially if expressing those things was discouraged in their childhoods. Her mind may go completely blank when you ask her some of your questions. Or she may be afraid. (I found it completely incomprehensible when P would tell me this, but sure enough, it's been described in some of the reading I've done.)
You are not comfortable with so little information. W is not comfortable giving it to you. Any compromise will be uncomfortable for both of you. I do believe it is worthwhile to keep trying for better communication. I don't think W is just being obstinate, though I know it feels like it. I think P sometimes feels sad, guilty, inadequate when she can't answer my questions. Often she feels pressured and afraid when I ask them.
