The fact that she won't discuss anything concerning "change" makes me think that what she is avoiding is "responsibility". It's easier for her to let you make all the decisions because then you are the one who can be blamed if things don't go well. I get this from my H sometimes. For instance, he didn't want to go house shopping with me so now it's my fault when things go wrong with the house.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
