More stuff to post - This is for my own personal gain
Just heard on Christain radio that anger is a very controlling behavior.
So I called W at her work and did a little smaill talk, but then I told her I still feel bad about last night. She then gets angry saying "You Should" and was rude. We pretty much hung up without saying goodbye. Then I send her this email:
why are u using anger to get what you want?
Tell me what you want honey and i will do it. Then you don't have to be controlling and angry.
What happens? My phone rings 5 minutes later and my sweet W is back. Just talked about S5 and T-ball and marriage class tonight. I felt I was taking a chance by sending that email. It could have made her more angry. I think she got the point. The point is I love her and I do feel bad, so don't make it worse.
I'm guilty of using anger to get what I want, but not nearly as bad as I use to be in the past. I still get from W that I'm controlling when we are fighting(I'm working on that and I know I'm improved). I'm hoping she remember's that email for awhile because she has the same controlling behaviors.
Goals for the week-
Wait for ILU's first - 180 - keeps her on her toes
Continue to work on myself
Really listening and asking questions on her true feelings.
Get tax return back and plan Vegas trip for W and I. No S5
If you act like a doormat you will be a doormat
If you act like a victim you will be a victim
If you act Classy you will be Classy - Bull Durham
The way you act is who you are!!!! Do you like who you are?
