Happy B-Day and Congratulations on your MUCH IMPROVED sitch.
My sitch seems very similar to yours when you started your first thread - Tough Love - 2 months separated now, I've been DB'ing for 1 month (5 weeks actually)
I've seen many improvements since I started, and I was wondering what was your W's headspace when you first separated? At the start of your post (Tough Love) she was calling every day, and you had just "gone dark" and she was then calling 15 times a day. When you first separated, was she continuing to call? My W was dead set that she wanted a D, no chance for us. Still now she doesn't want to reconcile, but I haven't brought it up in two weeks, neither has she. Was your sitch seeming hopeless at the start? At separation time was it "trial separation" or wsa she ready for D? I'd love to hear you say "Yeah dude, we were looking bleak!" Because I feel my sitch was bleak, and could use the hope!
Also, was her OM photographer a part of the reason for the separation? My W found a OM (EA) and I really think that he was a main reason for her to WA then. Underlying issues of course.
I feel bad bringing up this negative stuff on your bday. Hopefully it doesn't spoil your mood thinking bout it.
Congrats again. Your thread is great! Sorry for your tough times, happy for your good.
