1. the struggle with the question of was w's ea at any point a pa?
try not to think about it in terms of ea vs pa and just call it an a...much easier that way esp since neither is less painful than the other.
2. Your new/old femal friend... the fact that you are asking your w if it's OK should be an indication to you that it isn't...if it were completely innocent you wouldn't feel the need to ask...but since you did ask here's her answer...
"Don't get her pregnant".
I would certainly read that as it's NOT ok for you to continue the "friendship".
Quote: I told W that I want to be completely honest with her and if she can't handle my friendship that I would terminate it for her.
again I'll say the fact that you wonder if she'll be able to "handle" your friendship with this other woman screams to me that it (the other r) is either on it's way or already is an ea.
Not meaning to come down on you just pointing out the things that spoke to me...tis my way.
