Thank you all..I guess I knew in ym heart that I would not walk out on this relationship and needed someone else to point that out to me. I do appreciate it from you guys. I would not ask for honesty unless I truly wanted it. I DO NOT believe that he is after a R with her in the physical sense or anything like that......if I thought that I would not be here still, but he is WAY soft hearted. He hates confrontation and is nice to everyone. It took 6 years for him to stop giving his best friend money that he never paid back....he owes us thousands by now, but H would give it if he had it even nowing he would not get it back. He finally stopped.anyway..thank you again and I will keep checking here and updating.