Sam, This may seem a little harsh and maybe its because I've basically given up, but think about this.
Do you feel like you are in eternal limbo? I mean he talks about having kids with you? Not that thats a bad thing, but to two of you are divorced right? Its been almost 2 years since the bomb right? In that 2 years have you made real progress with your relationship? I consider a relationship, spending quality time with someone, have you spent quality time with him? Does he seem interested in whats going on in your life?
Maybe its because I've all but given up, but I say you need some distance from him. You seem to really be there for him alot, is he there for you, ever? Are you enabling him by being there for him?
I think it does only take one person to get the relationship going down the right path, but can we really make it work by ourselves and for how long? I've been waiting over a year, and I'm tired. Tired of waiting for someone who has no interest in me.
I should have said something a couple weeks ago when you were talking about getting him a present for your anniversary. I ran across this with my XW, she didnt want a present from me for her B-day, and definetly didnt want one for our anniversary. I really didnt want to give her anything for our anniversary, because it just didnt seem right. I thought, yes the past was great, we celebrated our relationship each year, but now you nolonger want to have a R with me so, we shouldnt really celebrate. I get her a present that the boys help me pick out, for mothers day, xmas and her B-day. The past is the past, I see that now. It was great, but what about now, what about the future?
Maybe I should keep my trap shut, but as I've read over the past coupld of weeks, its whats come to mind. If nothing else think about what I've said here.
When is the last time you went out and did something fun?
