Sam you have such a positive attitude. Reading your post inspires me to do more, do better. Thanks.
My W never lied or lied by omission. She went directly to just not talking about certain things. I know now that she was so concerned about how I judged her every move. Even after we are divorced she is concerned about me judging her.
I don't see the divorce as a 180, because I dont believe she ever intended to revoke a positive response in me. I believe she just wanted out of a relationship she was unhappy with. I do believe it took the act of divorce to get me to pull my head out. Actually, I think the threat of divorce would have done the trick, but I wont go there at this time! I actually thanked my W for taking a stand, and told her that if all this had not happened I probably would never have changed. I feel so much wiser now. Wiser about life, whats important in life and relationships. XW even said that she felt that the next relationship I'm in will be a very healthy one (still not sure what that means).
God has presented us with a challenge, a challenge he knows we can handle, a challenge he knows will make us stronger. I believe this whole-heartedly.
Keep on validating and being there for him. Your doing great.
