Just wanted to give some updates on my situation. It is getting really late so I am going to keep this short. I need to get to bed, but will try to post more later.
H and I are getting along beautifully. What is working? It is all about me and my new attitude. I am completely at peace with myself and my life, and H loves the new me.
Here is one small example. H is really a mess because of problems in his life and in the past I used to intensify his stress. I used to be the biggest worry wart. When H told me about his problems, I would get stressed and just add more stress. This eventually led to him not sharing anything with me. Today, I am less selfish and try to be there for him.
His brother works for the company H and I created together. Two years ago we caught his brother stealing money. We gave the brother a second chance, but I was such a witch about the whole situation. In fact, it was two months after this situation that H began having an online EA. Well, guess what? The brother is stealing again, and it is very likely a huge amount of money. H told me about the situation, and the only thing I did was reassure H that his brother is just human and human's make mistakes, that he is no angel himself so he shouldn't crucify brother (he wants to have him charged with a felony), that H is probably wrong on the amount of money he is stealing (I don't think he is). H responds very positively to the new me and my new attitude. H is still very upset with his brother, but it is his own reaction and his own thoughts. H still thinks the same things about his brother, but I can tell that he loves not having to defend his brother to me. Everytime H says something negative about brother I validate his feelings, but I also defend the brother. This is huge for me because of the problems this situation originally caused in our marriage.
I will add to this post later, but I have to get to bed right now.
I wanted to add that my new attitude has come about because of DBing and trying to live a more Christian life. My new relationship with God has brought me more contentment and peace than I could ever imagine. Hopefully, I will find a computer that will allow me to post more very soon. Got to get to bed. Goodnight.
P.S. H is getting new health insurance and offered to add me to it saying we both needed to have good health insurance. Also, when H told me about brother stealing money he said, "Brother is stealing from me and from you." I thought this was neat because the brother really isn't stealing from me because that isn't my company anymore. Whether his brother steals or not I will still get the same amount of money each month. To me this suggests that H is saying this because that company will be both of ours again one day.
