I was so happy to hear from you! Thanks for taking the time to post. Your advice really made a lot of sense and meant a lot to me. Reading your post put me in such a positive frame of mind. Your words changed my whole outlook on the situation.
You are so right about everything. I should do better at picking my battles. I guess I got a little ahead of myself. I also agree that I am not in a place in my relationship where I can ask for what I want yet. I got really selfish last night and it is such a cheeseless tunnel. Why do I even begin to go down it? I absolutely get tunnel vision when I start too and refuse to see anyone else’s point of view.
How was your trip? How are things with you? Sounds like you are still hanging in there since you were able to give such good advice. Was that conversation with wife recent? Your wife sounds just like my H in that scenario. Update me on your sitch. I'll be looking for your post on your thread.
IMP,
Thanks for posting. Everything about my behavior was needy. I need to be whacked. I hate how I end up feeling when I am needy and let my emotions control my behavior. Also, H is hiding something, and I know what it is….His problems in recovery that I was too selfish to remember last night.
Georgia,
I loved your story! It made me cry. It really hit home and made me realize how selfish I am being to not put H’s recovery before my own wants. I forwarded your message to another person on this board that is having problems with his wife who is an alcoholic. Thanks so much for taking the time to post. You helped me so much. I want to be more like your mom.
Ioavva,
Thanks for posting. You make a lot of sense. I will follow your advice, and stop being needy immediately and for good. Sounds like your situation is looking really good. You are going to be our inspiration and hope on this board. Keep up the good work.
