As far as the wife/lover split goes, I knew that I didn't have much desire to ML to my H, and I also knew I was a really good mom. I was hoping my H was valuing all the things I did do and was coming to realize that sex was no longer important. He didn't complain all too much so I figured he was coming around to my way of thinking.
Guys, you can withdraw from the marriage and hope that the emotional abandonment will spark something for your wives( Like my H did, only in our case by the time I awakened, he was full of resentment), or you can persistently make this an issue that is serious and is not magically going to go away. Bringing it up every once in awhile is not going to work.
