Actually...no you don't. My friend and her H were definitely not in sync, still aren't....but her kids now listen and do what is asked because they know Mom WILL enforce the consequences regardless. You make it clear to your children, that even if Mom caves...they will still have to deal with YOU, because YOU will enforce consequences. YOU still need to take the stand of enforcer, true...but they will learn that there are STILL consequences for their actions.
My guess is that sure, it's going to be a real big pain initially, your W will probably think you are being a hard ass...but this will payoff.
