I have tried this, but -- like the SSM ultimatums -- you can't offer something that you're not willing to back up with action. My wife simply isn't willing to follow thru.
This affects every area of our lives. DD18 is CONSTATLY late to things, and can hold up the whole family waiting for her to finish her make-up, do her hair, etc. My position is "you have five minutes, and then we're leaving," and then I'm prepared to DO it. My wife simply won't, DD knows she won't, and thus the bad habit continues.
I have no doubt I could run the household this way, and while it would be 30 days of sheer hell, it would then improve. But as she has said, this is "her job," and feels it's her responsibility to do it effectively. My attempts and imposing some sort of solution have ended up looking like criticism and meddling, and she then feels even more ineffective and depressed.
