Thanks! I figured you missed that post, it happens
Obviously I can't guarantee it will work for you, but I can't impress upon you the feeling that went through me when I saw the pain in my H's eyes as his lightbulb went on and he realized what pain he'd been causing me.
That was the 1st time (fleeting as it was) that I had ever seen him show some emotion that corresponded with his words. It felt wonderful and horrible at the same time. Wonderful that I could see he could show emotion, horrible that I saw the pain because I wanted to take it away.
Best of luck w/this...I know you can do this...my H is in his 40's too
