Choc, That was kinda my whole point. When she stopped her epiphany, what she essentially did was to throw the ball back in your court. Since that time, you've been sitting there with the rotting ball in your hands, listening to sad songs. (btw, I too listen to sad songs when I'm down..or anytime..I just like sad songs for some reason)
I think she is beginning to wonder why you're holding on to the old ball and why you no longer care enough to throw it back to her.
I believe you could re-open the convo by saying, I should have done and said this 4 years ago at that time. I didn't because of sympathy, pride and chickensh*tness. I'm sorry I let that get in the way of having a happy marriage. I do believe that is a goal that both of us share. I want to get back to having a rockin sex life and I'd like to know what you are willing to do to help me get there.
Then put on your armor and settle in for a battle.
You know, I HATE having to reinforce my boundaries. I hate it. But it's not much of a boundary if I don't do that. So it is about my OWN self respect just as much as it is about him.
