Boy, this thread is hopping all over the place. Mrs NOP, your steak post had me in stitches, but there is much truth to it.

I used to be guilty of this one:

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4. You yelled at her, withdrew from her or spent a grand total of 5 minutes during the day actually conversing with her - now where the hell is your steak?



I see this from his perspective now, but when I would do this, I would feel bad about the way I had behaved, and then offer to share some steak with him as a way of reaching out and reconnecting. He saw it as a further imposition, obviously. So things are not quite so black-and-white.

And an additional one:

11. I believed his reasons for eating steak should be the same as mine, and that he should enjoy it prepared and served the same way that I did.

Again, this was not done out of blatant disrespect for his POV, I just had tunnel vision and couldn’t see that his motives and approach were just as valid as mine.

The sexual motives article that you linked was excellent, btw…fed right into what I had come to realize myself…see #11 above! I will try to post on that thread when I get a chance.

Julie