LL --- No, not at all. I’m responding to Cemars line “And the worst part is that there is nothing I can do to make me happy” not true IMHumbleO.
I’m not being oblivious to the impact the LD can have on an HD. We, HDs, seem to take the lack of sex and magnify it. The fact that it’s missing makes us want it even more. To us it’s the tangible result of our relationship and if it’s missing then the relationship is missing.
We are mostly in similar situations in that we are not getting what we want. And the thing we’re not getting is very important, in fact it’s vital to our well being. It’s not to be dismissed. But the LD’s lack of interest (or even cases of extreme outburst) doesn’t relieve us of responsibility for our own happiness or in some cases unhappiness.
We are unhappy because of the circumstance we find ourselves in, but we are still responsible for and control what we feel. In Cemars case I’m guessing (since I think it true in all our cases) he is as responsible for the results he is experiencing as his wife. So I would consider his statement is not true. I think he expresses extreme side of what we all as HDs feel. BTW - I tend to relate very closely with his statements when it comes to the frustration and emotion of our situations. I’m not picking on you Cemar just using your statement to try and prove a point.
