I'm with lostlove -- and CeMar -- on this one. When does getting "unfused" turn into meaningless distance?

I think I have a pretty healthy balance of: "Look, Chocolateeyes is not the sum total of how MrsChocolateeyes treats him, esp. as it relates to sex. I am my own person, with my own interests, abilities, and unique personality outside of my marital relationship."

But I ALSO think it's healthy -- and natural -- to want, or even crave, our primary Love Language from the one person we chose above all others to spend the rest of our lives with.

For some of us, that's Physical Touch/Affection/SEX, and to not have it makes us very empty and sad.

Choc.