Quote: And the worst part is that there is nothing I can do to make me happy. Happiness is having a lover and I don't have one.
I hear you on that one Cemar, BUT not having a lover doesn't have to equal total misery right? yes I know you have a life but just feel something is lacking...Don't let that lacking take away all your happiness...it's not worth it and will only foster more ill feelings in you.
I assume that what others here hear as anger pouring out of you is nothing more than desperation.
Don't know what there is that folks like us who's spouses are (seem) unwilling to do little more than acknowledge that an imbalance exhists. Should we clap our hands and ask for kudos for that? NOPE cause we know the drill...sure I know on some level that my lack of desire/drive is hurting you but "that's just the way I am".
what if that really IS just the way they are..that we aren't doing or not doing anything to attribute to their lack of desire...what if we truly are mismatched and we've got those spouses who just don't see it (physical intimacy)as important and expect us to be happy with what we get because they are happy with what they get.
I don't have any advice for you Cemar just wanted to let you know that I totally relate to your frustration.
