Quote: As I said unless the LD spouse decides to take an active role in finding a solution to the problem the HD spouse has few choices.
I feel exactly the same way. All of the solutions to this problem REQUIRE the complete active participation of the LD spouse. There is nothing that a HD can do to fix their marriages by themselves. This makes the LD appear to have ALL the power in a marriage. I feel very helpless in what I can do. There are things I suppose I caould do to make the marriage better for HER, but I can not think of a single thing that I can do to make the marriage better for me in any way. And the worst part is that there is nothing I can do to make me happy. Happiness is having a lover and I don't have one.
