Quote: Having a lower sex drive does not explain why a spouse acts unconcerned and unloving toward you. Having a lower sex drive doesn't explain why your spouse refuses to actively, continuously work toward a solution with you. Having a lower sex drive does not explain the inability to arrive at a solution.
Because the LD is LD there is little motivation for them to DO something about it...why should they...it's not THEIR problem that their spouse isn't getting enough physical affection/attention. The HD spouse knows/feels this lack even if everything else in the relationship is wonderful (though how can it be if there is a sense of lacking on one partners side?) the HD spouse is obviously more motivated to DO something to change the sexual dynamic but is left with few choices (1. accept a ssm 2. become LD yourself 3. Leave the m) unless/until the LD spouse DECIDES they'd like to take an active role in the situation.
