Dear Mrs. Nop,

Wow - that was the best post I have seen on this particular issue. Thank you. Thank you. I stand convicted on at least two that I know of and probably others as well -

You said:

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8. She doesn't know jack-squat about steak, either preparation or eating, and goes to extremes to disguise her ignorance.
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My H had exactly two lovers of short duration before we met - other relationships were of the "Everything but" variety. I may not/have not been as sensitive to this as I could be. Perhaps I haven't known how to navigate the male/female aspect of this - I suspect that know a great deal more about sex than he does or at least have a better comfort level with different sexual acts but I am concerned with emasculating him.

You also said:
___________________________________________________________10. She's spotted a sweater she likes in the mall the other day and told you about it, but for her birthday you get her a set of steak knives, another case of steak sauce, and a recipe book entitled "The Joy of Steak".
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I am guilty, guilty, guilty and have been called on this by H in the past. In the beginning of our R - H bought a video tape series about sex to help us "learn" more about it - we watched it in a semi embarrassed silence, discussed in minimally and that was H's last foray into "improving" our SL. I have bought a myriad of books, magazines etc... H sees me reading them even if I don't buy them for "him" he gets the message.

I am not trying to hijack - I am simply illustrating how these points play out in RL. Mrs. Nop if you want to respond on my thread "The Long Way Home" feel free. It is time for me to post the current deal anyway. I could use some help.

Karen