I actually had a bit of a lightbulb moment myself in my last C session. I was having to let our C know what (non-sexual) things my H could that I would interperet as feeling loved...one of the things I listed was....(drum roll please) telling me how he feels about me!
Then I had my own anvil on the head moment where I realized....I don't exactly tell him how I feel about him either. Yes, I tell him I love him. Yes, I tell him I'm lucky to have him...but neither of those really tell him how I feel. Both of those things are fairly generic & safe. I obviously need to pull my head out of my own turtle shell. I know it's retreated back in there for fear of being whacked off...but time to take stock and work on this one myself
