I can only speak from my experience on this...but for me, that's bad.
Quote: You’re right in that my wife isn’t aware of how much my emotions vary
The way this makes me feel with my H is that I have to guess how he's feeling...I HATE that! I felt so alone in my fear. I can't tell you how conforting it would have been for me to know he was as scared as I was. Now that doesn't mean he would have needed to run around in a panic, crying his eyes out. That's not it at all....but just some words to me to let me know he was scared but there for me...that's all I required. Something!
I know he's been conditioned to be this way, I understand that...but that doesn't help me to know how he feels. I cannot assume it. When you stay so rock steady in your outward emotional appearrance it's very hard for her to know what you are feeling on the inside, or how you feel about her.
My H just assumed that because he married me I should always know that he loves me, cares for me, fears for me etc. I cannot know that if he never shows me that...and how can I guess which emotion he's feeling if he stays constant on the outside? See what I mean?
Do you think it's possible your W has been left guessing?
