IHJ, I think you hit the nail on the head. Mrs GGB had no idea of the pain I was feeling until we really opened up during the WWME weekend. Once she saw my hurt, she's been trying very very hard to make sure my needs are being met. Reading other LDW's posts on here, especially yours, have made me start to understand what a struggle it is for her as well. Her most frequent complaint, if that is the right word, is that she has such a hard time keeping up with my SD, and that she doesn't really feel very sexy. I struggle to keep focused on all that she is doing rather than what she is not (it is so easy to fall back into the anger and resentment, and unless I really try to put myself in her shoes, it is hard to get out of that mode). She really is a terrific woman, and I am floored by the amount she is trying to stretch herself to please me.
I know for a fact that she's not trying to manipulate me with sex. Instead, it is just that sex is not something she naturally aspires to. Like you, she doesn't understand why she doesn't have much of a drive, and she's trying hard to get one. Personally, I'd love it if she'd come visit the BB (and I've invited her several times). I think she'd probably find a more balanced perspective than I am able to give, and that she'd find some comfort knowing that there are other LDWs struggling with the same issues she is.
--GGB, who is starting to realize his W's struggle is at least as hard as his.
