Here's a question for you. I just remembered a situation this past summer that made me think of this.
Do you play the strong silent type when there's a crisis? Are you the take charge, show no fear kind of guy? These aren't bad traits...so don't think I'm going there...but here's why I ask.
This past summer...we found out I was pregnant, normally a very happy thing to find out...unfortunately it was tubal and emergency surgery had to happen. I was SCARED TO DEATH naturally....but my H never showed any fear or real concern about the situation. Yes, he was concerned that I was in pain, I don't mean that...but he was as calm as a cucumber...normally something I like.
I had no idea however that he was as scared or rattled as he was until after the fact, when I talked to his mom and some of my friends (that he had called)...really up until then I didn't know how much I meant to him.
I finally explained one day to him that I wished he had shown some fear in that circumstance....because it would have been comforting to me in a way to know I wasn't alone in my fear. Does that make sense?
