Quote: I used to really enjoy going out of my way and doing wildly romatic things for/with my wife. the anticipation and desire it fostered in me was wonderful and soemthing I go enjoyment from.
Gentlemen, I'm going to tell you something from my POV regarding the romantic things referenced here. As we all know POVs are different and varied (so take mine with a grain or two of salt), but if NOP have been cranking out this kind of stuff for several years, I would be gagging at the level of overly sweetish events.
How were your wives responding to this over the years?
I wonder if some of you don't find this kind of stuff more natural to your personality (than the Neanderthal referenced earlier) and assumed that it was what all women wanted. Some do. A goodly portion of them don't.
It may be that your wives never cared about the chocolate, cards and flowers routine. And that you were getting much more out of it than they were.
If your wives are anything like me, let me tell you what I find romantic.
A manly man. They come in all ages, shapes, sizes and personalities. I'm not talking about the kind of guy that only grunts, but I am talking about the kind of guy who isn't just another one of my girlfriends. He is the ying to my yang. I *want* there to be differences between us.
Quoting from John Eldredge's book ~Wild At Heart~
"A hesitant man is the last thing in the world a woman needs.
She needs a lover and a warrior, not a 'really nice guy'.
Her worst fear is --- 'I will never be really loved, never really be fought for'."
Not whined at, not cajoled, not silently simmered at.
I am not trying to offend anyone - I just thought it might be of benefit to hear a different perspective.
