It isnt quite that easy, CeMar andI ar in similar situations. Over the years I have been very romantic, not just in a 'Valentines Day, Birthday' kind of way but all the time, leaving notes, simple gestures, grand shows, the whole works. I'm not just saying this to pat my self on the back but friends of my W have told her how special I am, and a friend of mine told me 'stop it, my W told me to be more like HdSocal, you are making me look bad'. Some of my threads detail the things I have tried.
Do I do these in an attempt to get sex, no... but... I do them to help foster a healthy relationship that does include desire and passion, in addition to sex. Here is the problem, without recieving the passion and desire, these efforts start to become an effort in frustration, and are seen by the other person as attempts just to have sex. I
