What is it about LD's and their bodies?

[haphazard]

It's almost like the LD thinks that any sexual touching is going to lead to sex.

YES you got it. She is LD she does not want sex as often as you do when you touch her erotic zones all her warning lights come up "oh no here we go again" She knows she is getting into a whole can of worms, do or I or don't I feel like sex right now, if I don't he will feel rejected, if I try to go with the flow and see if my desire perks up then maybe it won't and I end up feeling used.

I would not describe myselft as LD - in fact I am higher drive than H but I have been there. I do know what it feels like as a woman to be touched erotically when you don't feel like sex. The way you know if she wants it is when she instantly reciprocates. If you touch her and her response is very low key then leave it. She knows you want her to have sex more, whether you have said it or not. When you touch her that way it is like you are saying Please may I have sex. She feels confused and upset by wanting to say no to you. She doesn't want to say no but her body doesn't want sex. Duty sex happens, don't feel bad about it - we hate rejecting you guys. If she loves you she wants you to be happy so she wants to fulfill your desires. Trouble is sometimes her desires don't match. When I have done duty sex sometimes I feel terrible other times I have got turned on somewhere along the line and it has turned out fine. Trouble is I never know which is going to happen. Sometimes I have been so upset by the feeling of being used that I have not been able to continue and that is WAY more upsetting than turning H down at the start.

Also are you seriously suggesting that if your W touched your ass or other erotic area you would not think she wanted sex??? That you would be happy with her giving you a quick fondle and leave it at that? Even without the psycho-blah these areas are sensitive, they're kind of ticklish and if you're not in the mood to be tickled that kind of touch is just annoying.

If physical touch is all you want then stick to non-erogenous areas, if sex is what you want then use a bit of suggestive fondling by all means but she only needs about 2 seconds to respond or not.

Good luck

Fran