Well, isn't this neat. I have been seeing my ex now for the last month or so. We were married two years from April 2002-July 2004. I'm 29, and she's 27 and no kids. She left for various reasons, but really she didn't seem to know at the time why she was so unhappy; she was just convinced that it was me and was afraid that she made a "mistake" in marrying me, almost from the beginning. So, since she left me in November 03 I had been largely ignoring her and not trying to force any contact. Out of the blue she called me last month and asked if I was willing to talk. I agreed and was shocked that she had seriously considered, with the help of a counselor, what was going on in her life and had made some very positive changes. As a result of these changes, she saw my actions in our marriage in a very different light. Now, I am still struggling with the concern that she will fall back into her destructive behavior and again feel that I am "the problem" but I have seen some very positive signs from her. Well, if things continue going well for us, we just might be one of those couples where the divorce isn't the end.
