I am glad that you are at least maintaining your sanity.
quote: ------------- Yesterday when I put the boys to bed and asked if they had fun today, they said 'Yeah - Daddy didn't yell at all today!' -------------
That is actually good that they have learned the difference between positive behavior and negative behavior and at least some understanding that the negative behavior isn't their fault.
On the accountant, do you have a fairly close friend that can sit down with you and have a look at the finances?
quote: ------------------ I'm trying to figure out how I can enforce this new boundary that the kids are not to spend time at in-laws unless we're ALL there, or at least, Ukki isn't. ------------------
Tell your husband that you don't want your children around Ukki by themselves, ever again. That you don't trust him not to hurt them, and you would hate to have to contact the authorities because you thought your children were in danger, and wouldn't that be embarrassing.
The additional playing next year sounds great. I played trombone for a decade or so when I was younger. I loved playing jazz. I can still run scales with little effort, but I am afraid that my embouchure would need a lot of work to sound good again.
quote: ----------------- The kids are doing ok. I try to spend as much time as I can with them, and they are talking to me more about their feelings etc. -----------------
It is good that they are confiding in you. In a bad situation, having at least one parent that they can trust is very important.
Take care, -NOPkins-
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
