FF, it sounds like you really are getting back on your feet! I know what you mean about that feeling of relief when you realize you can stop looking down that cheeseless tunnel.
No doubt, as you have observed, your different attitude and behavior will kick some stuff up in him.
I'm not a parent, so maybe this is totally out of line, but does it really matter if their rooms are neat? Getting to bed at a reasonable time is one thing, but the neatness... I don't know... There's that saying that at the end of their lives most people don't look back and say, "Gee, I wish I had spent more time at the office." I'll bet people don't look back and say, "Gee, I wish I had gotten my kids to keep their rooms neater." My room was always neat as a pin when I was a kid. My mom didn't make me clean it-- I just liked it that way. But now-- if you looked in my room, you'd be appalled. There are clothes on the bed and all over the floor... I just don't seem to put things away anymore. And you know what? It doesn't matter one single bit! No one cares! This is totally unsolicited free advice, so please assume it is worth exactly what you paid for it!
You wrote:
Quote: I had an epiphany of sorts the other day - a brief glimpse at me without fear. Wow!! Not sure I can handle myself. But it was amazing to see how much I've held myself back - since before H.
This gave me goosebumps!! You've got a LOT of life left in you, girl!
