FF... It may look like you have ended up at the same place ( needing to emotionally detach from H) but you really have grown. Before, you lived a separate life from H, but now you woke up to see that you had emotional/physical needs. You began to address the marital issues and realistically came to the conclusion that you are better off staying where you are and keeping the peace. You aren't in denial about what's missing for you...it's just on hold for now due to the bigger picture. Take good care of yourself and let in happiness...sending you xoxo's from the States...