I empathize with your situation, I really do. But yet again something you posted struck a chorde with me, so here goes.....
Quote: I guess I've been in denial, still hoping there was a way to work on this, 'cause I really don't want to have to take my kids away from this
Away from what exactly? Fighting? Yelling? Abusive behavior? A childish father? Manipulation? Control?....or a happy family?
I don't mean to trivialize this one little bit...just trying to help keep this in perspective for you. What your children are witnessing and also going through, same as you...isn't healthy, it's not a good thing for them to learn (and they are)...and it's stressful on them as well. I know you already know these things. So why do I say this? To help strengthen your backbone. You can find another job, it may be a pain and it may be inconvenient...but the physical & mental health of you and your children far outweighs inconvenience.
After reading your posts and keeping up with your situation I truly don't believe your situation is fixable unless your H seeks professional help (which so far he seems unwilling to do).....but this is MY opinion. I also believe you already know what needs to be done (in your gut) but so far you haven't managed to screw up the courage (and that's what it will take) to do it.
FF, you are a STRONG woman....if you weren't there is no way you could have tolerated what you have for so long. You CAN do what you need to do, just remember...the unknown is the scariest thing there is (IMO), usually the horrible things we fear of the unknown, those things our minds concoct up are far worse than the reality will be...when you finally take action. Not to mention....YOU will feel soooo much better about yourself for taking care of you and your children.
I'm thinking of you. When you need some strength just remember you've got a red-headed, green-eyed Amazon looking over your shoulder who'se mentally giving you all the strength she's got to get through this!
