quote: ----------- I felt as though he managed to point out that I've been horrible towards him, so he sees no point in listening to what I ahve to say, He's not intending on talking about our problems, and he doesn't want to see a councilor. Not to mention that things around here are in chaos. -----------
And there you have the goals of the conversation from the beginning. Let me translate; "Everything is your fault, so I will do nothing."
The problem with validation here, is that it will lead to the opposite side, of a same-sided coin. "I am glad that you agree with me, that you see we need no outside help".
The only suggestion I can make, is that you try to never yell. If he yells, and you don't, then his behavior is spotlighted, not validated.
I know you don't want to hear this, FF, but you really need to seriously consider removing you and the children from this for a while. Have they ever known 'peace' in your home?
For what it is worth, this anonymous stranger, and others just like me here, care what happens to you.
-NOPkins-
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
