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I find it interesting that it sounds like you are defending him, are you?



Wasn't intending to, but then again, it wouldn't be the first time.

Yes, the thought did cross my mind that he might be projecting. It was rather strange the way he said how sad he felt that I was so evil, it was rather spooky.

Thanks for reminding me that all mothers get frustrated some times. I know that, and in all honesty, I'm proud of my mothering skills, and it bothers me that I even considered letting H get to me like that...

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If you grabbed your H's arm and intervened when he grabbed your child, that's perfectly acceptable to me...in my view that's physically threatening your child at the least, you were doing what most protective mothers would have done.




Actually, H grabbed S4a's arm, I just stepped in and firmly told him to let go, and get out and cool off. And I do agree that I did what any mother would have done. I just meant that that might have been where he picked up the idea of saying I would hurt the kids, 'cause I said that I hoped if I ever did, he would intervene.

I'm not going to spend too much time analyzing, 'cause I don't think it warrents that much time. What I suspect is that H feels he's loosing his grip, and is trying some way to keep me in the box.

I keep trying to find some explanation, since I don't want to believe that H could really be so cold.